Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Perfection, who me?

I adore my son completely. But the one bit of his personality that makes me a bit bonkers is his need to be perfect. If he isn't the best at something then he usually doesn't want to do it. Its something I fight him on all of the time. You don't have to be good if you enjoy it.... blah blah blah.

So yesterday he was building a gingerbread house. Just a cheapy one I got at the store (actually it was a Halloween one I got for 99 cents after Halloween). He kept melting down that it wasn't working for him and that it was too hard and he couldn't do it right. I lost my cool with him for a minute about it because I couldn't drop everything to help him again. I kept telling him, there is no right! What ever you do is PERFECT! (See that word? Shame on me.) He ended up leaving it in a heap on the table and giving up. I was so upset that he didn't want to do it, he had been looking forward to it for so long. 

Fast forward to me telling my mom about the hat I started for Chelsea. When I took my knitting class the thing I was looking forward to the most was hats. I really wanted to make hats! So many hats! Then I started Chelseas and got overwhelmed and didn't think I could do it. It sat in a bag started but not far into it for ages. I didn't touch it once after my class. So I am telling my mom about this hat and she says 'I wonder where Zach gets it....'  Ouch. I totally broke my kid. If I cant win, I wont play. If I wont be the best, I wont play. If I'm not good, I wont play. If I cant do it all and have it done PERFECTLY then I wont even try. And I went right ahead and put all that on my kid too. 

So I have decided to work on it. Obviously it wont be done overnight but I'll start taking tiny, perfectly lined up steps. 

P.S. Chelsea was working on her house again today, adding more bling. She asked me if it looked done and I told her 'Its done whenever you think it looks PERFECT' I'm working on monster #3. 

P.P.S. I went ahead and finished that hat! Its got some imperfections but I think we can all agree to look past them. =)

1 comment:

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